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Kill Your Ego… Before It Kills You (Part 2)

This is the spectre... of EGO!

This is the spectre… of EGO!

My first post on this topic examined how one’s ego can drive one into potentially violent situations for no good reason. Hopefully anyone who reads these posts will have the strength of character to recognise their own ego in some of the examples given, and strive to bring it further under the control of their better nature. Because we are all controlled by our ego at times, and our best defence (as is the case across the board) is an awareness that this is happening.

However, the ego has many faces, and bleeds into one’s life with great subtlety and wearing many insidious disguises. In this post I shall examine some of the less obvious ways that one’s ego can interfere with one’s pursuit of safety and security, and look at the consequences of leaving it to run unchecked.

How can one be fully aware of one’s own ego, when the ego’s raison-d’etre is to conceal itself? Read more of this post

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Kill Your Ego… Before It Kills You (Part 1)

This cat would be safer if it saw a mouse staring back at it from the mirror

This cat would be safer if it saw a mouse staring back at it from the mirror

There’s an old saying in Ireland: “Many a man’s tongue broke his nose.”

A typically dry witticism, and also quite true; saying the wrong thing can get you seriously hurt.

Many people have stampeded towards an avoidable violent confrontation for no better reasons than: to have the last word; to let another person know how annoyed they are; to belittle another person or simply to posture and present a “front” based on bravado.

But this post is not just about keeping your mouth shut. It’s about the larger problem; it’s not just what one says that can get one hurt, it’s everything one does. Excessive eye contact can make other people aggressive; Rushing to catch your train and barging into another pedestrian could result in anything from a few harsh words up to a brawl; Read more of this post

Boundaries… and Honesty

This post will discuss personal boundaries, self-worth and the importance of honesty in both areas.

The great martial artist and martial philosopher Bruce Lee was fond of saying that martial arts are all about “expressing yourself honestly”, and also “not lying to oneself”. And he was right on the money.  The discipline of being honest with oneself and honest to others is key in the proper application of martial arts in all potential settings. Read more of this post

Q & A on the Ephemerality of Niceness

After having read my previous blog post, a friend of mine e-mailed me the following query:

“because you have honed your fighting skills you are free to be nice to everyone as you no longer fear others or at least don’t fear them as much. The reason being that you are pretty sure that you could beat them in a fight or at least defend yourself from any kind of attack that they may throw at you. What would happen if you stopped training or could not fight anymore?”

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The Power to Be Nice

Some time ago, someone tried to physically injure me. And not in training mind you, in an actual, public assault kind of way.

A strike was thrown at my head without warning at extremely close range, and my response was to jam the striking arm and shove the individual several feet away from me. The individual in question chose not to pursue further contact with me, and that was the end of the matter.

I was happy with my response. I wasn’t happy that I hadn’t seen the attack coming sooner and avoided it well in advance mind you, Read more of this post

Defining Victory

Let us make no mistake; our goal in the martial arts is to attain victory. But what is victory, and will we know when we attain it? If we didn’t define it, how could we know?

Of all the areas of combative training, the sporting arena is the one in which victory is easiest to define, especially in the more old-fashioned and raw Vale Tudo style competitions in which time limits were longer or non-existent. Victory in such a setting is simple: Incapacitate your opponent, (be it by knockout or other severe injury) or force him to quit. Read more of this post

On Confidence

Belief in one’s skills is a necessity for any combatant. Lack of belief in one’s capabilities can lead to hesitation, fear and panic during a stressful situation, and having no confidence in a particular course of action can lead to one’s brain treating that course of action as if it doesn’t exist; One can enter the state of hyper-vigilance, which has been likened to the “deer in the headlights” syndrome, in which one’s mind frantically searches through its databanks for a suitable action to take in the face of new and stressful stimuli, while one is frozen immobile and vulnerable. Read more of this post

Falling Down

The following is a guest article by the inimitable Man in a Bottle, as part of our blog-exchange programme; this is on the topic of his experiences with motivation for physical training. My heartfelt thanks go to the bottle-dweller for this material! Without further ado…

Falling Down

By Maninabottle

First I’ve got to say (and not because I was paid to say it, I wasn’t) I admire WithoutWriting and his dedication to his craft of martial arts. The man is exemplary in this dedication to honing his body and skills to make sure he is at the peak of physical fitness, and though I will never openly admit it, I am jealous. He’s definitely a go-getter; someone to whom you can give a task and know that he will do it to the best of his ability leaving no stone unturned. He pays attention to the details and it shows in his work and his training. Consequently he has one of those bodies where anything athletic looks good on him.

I on the other hand, I’m a different story. I can start a project and visualise the finished results. It’s perfect, in my mind I can seeing it happening….then reality hits. I didn’t look at the fine print. It’s my flaw that I’m a “forest not the trees” guy. Read more of this post